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10 Strategies to Protect Your Boundaries
In boxing, right before the fight starts, the referee motions the fighters to the center of the ring and gives last minute instructions to them, including the warning: “Protect yourselves at all times.” This is wise advice for anyone, not just professional boxers. Think about it: police wear SWAT vests, and football players use helmets…
Read More7 Guidelines for Creating Clear Boundaries
How can you set boundaries that will protect and enhance your job performance, family time, and personal life? Consider these seven suggested guidelines: Redefine your concept of success. Beware of the tyranny of the urgent. Take better care of yourself. Commit to taking better care of your family. Identify passive or aggressive areas of conflict.…
Read MoreHow to Recognize When You Need Boundaries
I knew a man in Florida who repeatedly ignored his car’s check-engine light. He kept driving, week after week, and finally the engine burned out. His failure to pay attention to the warning signs cost him nearly $2,000 in repairs. Unfortunately, there is no quick, easy formula for balancing the demands of career, family, and…
Read MoreThe Most Common Rationalizations for Poor Boundaries
It’s easy to avoid dealing with a boundary problem by rationalizing, “My over-committed lifestyle won’t last forever. Besides, things are going okay for me and my family. I’ll slow down next month.” Or the ever-popular: “Negative things won’t happen to me, because I’m doing the best I can with long work hours and difficult people.…
Read MoreThe 2 Types of Boundary Problems
How is it possible to build a happy, balanced home life when you are always gone? If you say yes to too many work-related requests, your family and personal life will suffer. Obviously, some hard questions need to be raised: What does your job description say about your overtime work? Do you have the courage…
Read MoreWhat my wife has done to heal our marriage despite my mental illness
Restoring a marriage that has been injured by mental illness starts with a deliberate choice to begin again and again and again. As a couple works at rebuilding their strained marital relationship, it takes rugged willingness and patient endurance. Sometimes, the healthy partner must give 99 percent of the effort because the other may be…
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